According to bereavement researchers, there is an ecological approach to grief and bereavement. Our grieving process is influenced by many ecological factors and these make family members express their sorrow in different ways.
The surviving spouse tries to adjust to the grief and bereavement by reordering his or her life and in the bargain the family support for the grieving child is not there. This makes the child express his loss and sorrow in school and among friends.
Usually when death occurs in the family, the safety and comfort zone is shattered. We all realize that life is very fragile and can be taken away any moment. A child ends up blaming himself for a parent's death thinking that because he was naughty or bad the parent died. This wreaks havoc in the child's life and you might see the child's grades falling in school or the child fighting with other children. This will usually happen when the child does not get the required support to deal with grief at home.
On the other hand an adult uses a different ecological approach to grief and bereavement. An adult may first go through a period of distress and self-blame for not doing anything to help the person who has passed away. Then they go through a process of avoiding the issue because they do not want to deal with the pain of the loss. However, complete avoidance is not possible as the adult will still express his pain by getting angry over small things or breaking into tears for no reason whatsoever. This ecological approach to grief and bereavement basically defers the way the person will process the loss emotionally.
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